Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour used to dominate, isolate and control a partner. In deaf relationships, abuse can take forms that directly target communication and independence.
One common tactic is withholding interpreters. An abusive partner may refuse to arrange an interpreter, discourage a deaf person from requesting one, or insist on speaking on their behalf. This can limit access to important information, services and support.
Abusers may also control access to communication devices, hearing aids or phones. They might hide, damage or withhold equipment that enables communication, making it harder for the victim to contact friends, family, employers or support services.
Another form of coercive control is monitoring text messages and video calls. Constantly checking messages, demanding passwords or listening in on signed video conversations can create fear and remove privacy. Victims may feel unable to seek help or maintain relationships.
Social isolation from the deaf community is another powerful tool of control. A partner may prevent someone from attending deaf events, meeting deaf friends or engaging with online deaf networks. This cuts off vital sources of support, information and belonging.
These behaviours may not always be recognised as abuse, but they can have a devastating impact on a person’s freedom, confidence and safety. Understanding the unique ways coercive control affects deaf people is essential to ensuring survivors receive the support they need.
What can you do?
If you work with deaf survivors, take time to learn how coercive control can affect communication, access to information and community connections.
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, reach out to a trusted support service, domestic abuse organisation or advocacy group. Raising awareness and improving accessibility can help ensure deaf survivors are heard, supported and safe.
